Hmmmmm,Where to start?

So where do I Start?Should I start back over a year ago when they had a little bit of marital issues or should I start after he died? I guess I'll start after his death and slowly fill in the blanks of the past as I go.

 My Best friend Havalah and her family recently lost their Husband,Dad, and Friend of 6 years,in Iraq on March 21,2011.Before he died, her and her husband were in the process of fixing their marriage.They were talking about fixing his car together,going camping,fishing and lots of other things as a family when he returned.His return date was suppose to be about a month give or take after his death,Causing this to impact his family even more.

  As I mentioned they were having a few marital issues so before His deployment he changed his beneficiary of his $400,000.00 Soldier Group Life Insurance Policy to his mom.He also supposedly made a Will leaving all his worldly possessions to his mother as well.(Although this is yet to be confirmed as his Mother refuses to release a copy of it to Havalah. We have reason to believe both of these actions were taken under duress and with his Mother influencing his decisions.) His Mother even received the BAH that is Normally awarded to the spouse for 2 months after a soldiers death. Leaving his wife,2 biological children,and 2 step children virtually homeless.As of the day I write this she now has approximately 2 weeks to out of their house.While Havalah was in Washington burying her husband,A note was left on her door stating Balfour Beatty hadn't received the BAH for the month of March;Which is due at the end of each month.However I believe as long as Havalah can pay March and Aprils rent which equals about $2154.00,And can continue to pay $1077.00 each month she can stay in her house for the remainder of the lease.At which time the Army requires her to move off post.
 
   He was a resident of Georgia,And claimed Havalah and all 4 children on his income tax return for 2010. Which he filed while he was deployed.He deposited the funds into his separate savings account.According to this supposed Will his Mother would be entitled to that as well even though a large chunk of that was earned income tax credit for the children.His Mother has made no attempt to help his family what so ever.In fact the only people from his side of the family that Havalah or her children have heard from is; His Father,His Aunt,His Grandma,And only 1 of his sisters.Since the day she got the tragic news of his loss.


  Havalah has spoken with The Fort Stewart Post Commander,JAG,The VA,And has also contacted Congress for the state of Georgia.Havalah has let it be known that she is contesting Both the Will and The Insurance claims.